Much is being discussed about women’s mental health on public platforms and it is definitely a step
in the right direction. However, one thing which sadly remains in the shadows and is often brushed
under the carpet is mental health in men.
Stigma around mental health in males
In most societies, display of emotions by males is considered inappropriate. Men are expected to live
up to a rough and tough image and chinks in their emotional armour are considered a weakness.
Since childhood, boys are brought up learning that they should not cry. It is, therefore, no surprise
that men find it difficult to open up about any emotional troubles they are facing. They are hard
wired to adhere to traditional gender roles of the need to remain strong and be able to support
others in times of distress. Some research also suggests that men who can’t speak openly about
their emotions may be less able to recognise symptoms of mental health problems in themselves
and are less likely to reach out for support.
Gender differences
While Mental illnesses are same for both men and women, there are some differences in the way
they manifest. Symptoms such as anger, irritability, reckless behaviour (gambling, rash driving) and
aggression are more common in men. They withdraw from spouse/ family members and prefer to
spend more time at workplace or out of the house. Men also indulge in substance use such as
tobacco, alcohol, cannabis etc more frequently as means of coping as compared to women. Statistics
from all over the world show a clearly higher prevalence of completed suicide in men as compared
to women. This could be because men use more lethal methods to attempt suicide (eg firearms).
Also, since men tend to talk less about such ideation, it might go unnoticed by those around them.
This can delay help seeking which is valuable. Men access mental health care (both counselling and
medications) less commonly than females.
How to break the cycle
If you know any boys/men who might be suffering from any form of mental distress, do not hesitate
to reach out to them and talk about it. Being able to verbalise the problem and vent it out also
provides relief. It is often difficult to get them talking, but once they do, it becomes easier to share.
The person will be able to open up more easily if the listener is non judgemental and empathetic. It
isn’t necessary for you to have a solution to their problem. Just lending emotional support also
helps. There may be some element of shame when talking about substance use or sexual problems.
When necessary, you can guide them to a mental health care provider (counsellor or psychiatrist) to
help them deal with the problem better. It is also important for parents of adolescent boys to
maintain a conversation about mental health and wellness at home so boys don’t shy away from
these conversations in future if need be.
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